The Courage to Be Disliked

The Courage to Be Disliked

Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi

Key takeaways


My last therapist recommended that I read this book after I told him I’ve been categorically a “people pleaser” my entire life.

The book is a Socratic examination of Alderian psychology. The book is written in the form of a conversation between a Philosopher and Student. The student is resentful and longs for a higher station in life. He tries to dismantle the Philosopher’s argument at every turn. In the end, he is dismantled and rebuilt anew.